Special Interests – 26 April

Gen X called and said the tuck-and-roll is back and won’t ever go away ever again

Disc Golf

Lincolnwood is bikable enough for me. I’ve been able to get to almost weekly. I met up with Santi once, who had the amazing idea to stop at Lebanais across the street for some shawarma with the beers I had in my züca cart/cooler.

My challenge with Lincolnwood’s course is the wind blowing west— with many of my discs onto McCormick Boulevard.

Just a bit outside but not technically out of bounds.

Sometimes it’s hard to play through as a result.

Not two seconds after the first picture, I was getting another disc to play through and, uh… a bus.

Still, with only a three-disc holster, I can get a really great workout biking-running-discing-biking back in a two hour circuit.

I’m happy to report I’ve made Saturday disc golf a reality four weeks in a row with a special assist from Jim Behymer, of Sandwich Tribunal fame, to kick off our (First) Annual 4/20 Classic last weekend.

My friend, former cohost and world-recognized Sandwich Expert™️ Jim and I before we rocked 5 miles of disc golf at The Meadows in Tinley Park

Research

As much as writing is benefitting me, the discourse that’s building from the reach outs and private messages and calls is so helpful in giving me some direction and some hard questions to further interrogate my own experiences.

For example, there are two distinct ways in which people on the spectrum might present that aren’t autism or ADHD. Alexithymia is a condition that describes what’s going on with 1-in-10 people who have challenges with their awareness of, ability to identify and describe feelings. This is very different from what’s going on with Interoception challenges, which are related to gaps in ability to identify and describe one’s physical/body senses.

Surely I’ll be writing about this in some depth as these sensory gaps make for challenging interfacing with other people, who may also experience their own sensory/sense-making challenges. I’ve read enough to begin to connect how my challenges with interoception have a swath of impacts on my emotions, which in-part can explain why, for example, i’m a hugger who’s pretty in-touch with my emotions, as well as explain the many tactile sensory gaps i have AND how that might impact my ability to read emotions. Oh yeah. Trippy right? Now that I can identify them, in part, by a pattern of absence of feeling, it’s gonna be interesting trying to write about that in a way that makes sense/is felt by others.

And people wonder why communication and relationships of any kind can be so tough to build, let alone maintain or improve? So much to understand yourself let alone make it easy for others to understand you. I stumbled onto interoception and alexithymia this last week in researching things for two different reach-outs over LinkedIn. Lots of dots connected for me with both constructs. Alexithymia explains a bit of things I’ve seen over the last decade.

Anyway, in addition to reading up on the science and research from source materials through ScienceDirect, personal narratives have been helping me reverse engineer some observed patterns of behavior (in myself, in others) into a model for how neurodivergence tends to manifest. All models are wrong 😑 but some are useful sometimes, and maybe a short-hand for how to approach communication and rapport (for work, for life) in an inclusive model that accounts for research-and-lived better practices for neurodiverse/divergent audiences is something that could be useful.

About 28min into this video, he gets into what it feels like to be in counseling with someone who’s alexithymic, and how their feelings bubble up… this is how i’m able to try and keep some empathy for others whose behaviors have caused me some real harm; as a model that checks many boxes, this framing is useful in explaining some ways things might feel/seem from another perspective.